I wrote this song a couple of years ago but haven't shared the music until now. I'm bringing it out in response to the discussion of our cultural obsession with disney princesses. I love the article and picture essay of the 5-year-old aspiring to be like real women in history. I think it is important for us to give our daughters realistic goals for their future. Not everybody can be like Kate Middleton and marry a real prince. But in a free country, every little girl can aspire to live happily ever after.
There are messages in the movies that I don't agree with. Ariel runs away from home. Belle falls in love with her captor (no way of telling this story without incorporating that element, unfortunately). I'm not going to address those elements today. The criticism I want to address is that of the Disney princess movies often ending with marriage. Marriage is placed to represent that they lived "happily ever after", setting girls up for disappointment in life if they never marry. Can girls find happiness in adult life without marrying? Of course they can. Can they achieve great things without a husband? Of course they can. Indeed, the princess in history that I most admire never did marry. Instead she became a great Queen who brought such prosperity to her country that the Elizabethan era was named for her. Naturally we should not teach our daughters that everything depends on their becoming a wife someday.
But I don't think the princess stories teach that. They tell a story of a girl who finds happiness in finding their true love- someone to share their life with and establish a family. There's a big difference. I have to wonder, what are we teaching when as a society we lash out at something so beautiful? With the disintegration of the family, with broken marriages, single mothers dependent on welfare, and falling birth rates that threaten whole nationalities, we would do well to remember the example of these princesses- to marry. Certainly we can't all marry a prince or a rich Mr. Darcy though we would all love to, but finding a good husband is a realistic goal for most little girls when they grow up. Not unreasonable at all.
I love the lesson my parents taught me when I was small. I wasn't taught to dream of being a princess someday. I was taught that I AM A PRINCESS. I am a princess because I am a daughter of God, the King of Heaven and Earth. Therein lies my great worth. Therein lies the worth of every little girl. My biological father is also a king. He is the king of our home and he rose to the occasion. We are to be agents unto ourselves, every man a king, every woman a queen of that which falls under our jurisdiction. If my father is a king then, I am a princess. I wasn't taught to wait around for prince charming to come. I was taught that if I want to marry a prince, I would have to be a princess. I would have to act the part, to educate myself as a princess should, and to be the best person I could be. That's what being a princess meant to me as a little girl. When I went through the temple I gained an even greater appreciation of this principle. In the walls of the temple, during the temple endowment, members are ordained to become kings and queens, priests and priestesses. This blessing will be realized as we prove our faithfulness in this life, a blessing and reward we have to look forward to.
When I wrote this song, I was reflecting on the Relief Society Theme, which states that we find nobility in Motherhood. It was shortly after my second child was born, a time of rejoicing in my life. Whether or not a woman becomes a mother, we can all find nobility in this calling. I don't want my daughters to feel deprived if they don't marry in this life because I believe as we are taught, that many of these things will be straightened out in the life to come. We do believe that to attain the highest degree of glory, women AND men must have a spouse sealed to them in the walls of the temple.
I want to teach my daughters that while there is a need for botanists, nurses, teachers, anthropologists, and a host of other careers, what the world needs now more than ever is good mothers. Mothers who know their own worth, who know the worth of their children, and who instill virtuous character sufficient to overcome the challenges of our day. Mothers who love their children, spend time with them, and instill a moral code as only mothers can. Glenn Doman teaches that mothers make the best mothers, and I wholeheartedly agree. If children are the world's most valuable resource, then it stands to reason that motherhood is the noblest of professions, one worthy of admiration and respect.
That's my bottom-line takeaway from the princess culture. There are many important things for us to teach our daughters. Academics are important. But let our girls wear the pretty dresses if they want. Let them wear pink. Let them dream of marrying a good man someday. The more dreams like this that come true, the better off our world will be.
The Making of a Queen sheet music pdf
There are messages in the movies that I don't agree with. Ariel runs away from home. Belle falls in love with her captor (no way of telling this story without incorporating that element, unfortunately). I'm not going to address those elements today. The criticism I want to address is that of the Disney princess movies often ending with marriage. Marriage is placed to represent that they lived "happily ever after", setting girls up for disappointment in life if they never marry. Can girls find happiness in adult life without marrying? Of course they can. Can they achieve great things without a husband? Of course they can. Indeed, the princess in history that I most admire never did marry. Instead she became a great Queen who brought such prosperity to her country that the Elizabethan era was named for her. Naturally we should not teach our daughters that everything depends on their becoming a wife someday.
But I don't think the princess stories teach that. They tell a story of a girl who finds happiness in finding their true love- someone to share their life with and establish a family. There's a big difference. I have to wonder, what are we teaching when as a society we lash out at something so beautiful? With the disintegration of the family, with broken marriages, single mothers dependent on welfare, and falling birth rates that threaten whole nationalities, we would do well to remember the example of these princesses- to marry. Certainly we can't all marry a prince or a rich Mr. Darcy though we would all love to, but finding a good husband is a realistic goal for most little girls when they grow up. Not unreasonable at all.
I love the lesson my parents taught me when I was small. I wasn't taught to dream of being a princess someday. I was taught that I AM A PRINCESS. I am a princess because I am a daughter of God, the King of Heaven and Earth. Therein lies my great worth. Therein lies the worth of every little girl. My biological father is also a king. He is the king of our home and he rose to the occasion. We are to be agents unto ourselves, every man a king, every woman a queen of that which falls under our jurisdiction. If my father is a king then, I am a princess. I wasn't taught to wait around for prince charming to come. I was taught that if I want to marry a prince, I would have to be a princess. I would have to act the part, to educate myself as a princess should, and to be the best person I could be. That's what being a princess meant to me as a little girl. When I went through the temple I gained an even greater appreciation of this principle. In the walls of the temple, during the temple endowment, members are ordained to become kings and queens, priests and priestesses. This blessing will be realized as we prove our faithfulness in this life, a blessing and reward we have to look forward to.
When I wrote this song, I was reflecting on the Relief Society Theme, which states that we find nobility in Motherhood. It was shortly after my second child was born, a time of rejoicing in my life. Whether or not a woman becomes a mother, we can all find nobility in this calling. I don't want my daughters to feel deprived if they don't marry in this life because I believe as we are taught, that many of these things will be straightened out in the life to come. We do believe that to attain the highest degree of glory, women AND men must have a spouse sealed to them in the walls of the temple.
I want to teach my daughters that while there is a need for botanists, nurses, teachers, anthropologists, and a host of other careers, what the world needs now more than ever is good mothers. Mothers who know their own worth, who know the worth of their children, and who instill virtuous character sufficient to overcome the challenges of our day. Mothers who love their children, spend time with them, and instill a moral code as only mothers can. Glenn Doman teaches that mothers make the best mothers, and I wholeheartedly agree. If children are the world's most valuable resource, then it stands to reason that motherhood is the noblest of professions, one worthy of admiration and respect.
That's my bottom-line takeaway from the princess culture. There are many important things for us to teach our daughters. Academics are important. But let our girls wear the pretty dresses if they want. Let them wear pink. Let them dream of marrying a good man someday. The more dreams like this that come true, the better off our world will be.
The Making of a Queen sheet music pdf
